Online Dating: Egg Edition
By the time online dating came along, I was already several years into my relationship with N, so I was ever able to experience it. Until now. My clinic’s website has a convenient feature where I can...
View ArticleWhen Egg Substitute Is on the Shopping List
Selecting an egg donor is kind of a big deal. There are several categories of qualities to choose from, and before you even start looking, you pretty much have to accept that you can’t have all of...
View Article“I’m Talkin’ about Ethics”
One of my favorite lines in the Coen brothers’ Miller’s Crossing is when Jon Polito tells Albert Finney: “I’m talkin’ about friendship. I’m talkin’ about character. I’m talkin’ about – Hell, Leo, I...
View ArticleDonor Down
Our donor fell through. A woman who I’ve been thinking about for weeks and whom I’ve been affectionately calling #4889 has left us. The clinic gave us two reasons. The first was that they discovered...
View ArticleVegas Baby! Vegas!!
We’ve chosen a new donor, and she’s so great. I love her. Yes, it’s probably early to use the L word, but she’s my future children’s genetic parent, so I can’t help myself. She’s from Las Vegas and has...
View ArticleContract Lenses
Working on the first draft of our legal contract was both fun and thought-provoking. Fun because I’m a geek, and thought-provoking because you have to anticipate every possible future scenario of your...
View ArticleLosing Las Vegas
Our second donor fell through. Turns out she’s a flake. It took her an eternity to fill out the paperwork, but we let it pass because she apologized profusely and convinced us that she was a changed...
View ArticleCharades
When I search for a donor, I look for something of myself in her, but I’ve never understood why. What’s the point? Am I trying to fool myself? I’ve been asking myself these questions for weeks,...
View ArticleForty Vignettes
I turn 40 next week. I remember my mother when she was 40. I was 18, so it’s not hard to recall. She still turned heads with her beauty and sexy stylishness, but 40 was when she started to seem …...
View ArticleTwo Weeks’ Silent Apostrophe
Watching shitty romantic comedies is my most guilty pleasure. Actually, that’s not true. Watching shitty romantic comedies is a guilty pleasure, but my most guilty pleasure is watching shitty romantic...
View ArticlePlagiarizing Frankenstein
I could have written Frankenstein. If we’re talking about the story of someone who is overwhelmed by grief, who can’t accept life’s fate, who wants so desperately to defy the limitations of our bodies...
View ArticleBuyer’s Remorse: Egg Edition
I met my donor for lunch yesterday. The following are excerpts from our conversation. My Donor: “I’m really good at a lot of things. Like flower arranging. I’m great at succulents. Look at these...
View ArticleThe Fert Report
Here are the results from the June 7th retrieval: 20 eggs were retrieved 15 were mature 13 fertilized By Tuesday, June 12 – the morning of my transfer – the number should go down a little, but there’ll...
View ArticleMy Biological Clock Has One Hand Clapping. Sometimes.
So, I got caught in an undertow of grief the other day. I could try to defend myself by saying that I freaked out because my estrogen level is 2500 instead of the normal 150, but I’d rather just accept...
View ArticlePro-Choice versus Pro-Life
I discovered a secret to life. The first half of the secret is that “choice yields unhappiness.” The second half of the secret is that “choicelessness yields happiness.” And the third half of the...
View ArticleA Funny Thing Happened on My Way to Committing Murder
From the start, I had an “unexplained infertility” diagnosis. Or rather an “unexplained infertility, but we think it’s an egg issue” diagnosis. As in: You can’t get pregnant on your own, but we think...
View ArticleDietary Supplements
Here’s what happens 3 months into quitting gluten, soy, dairy, nightshades, caffeine, sugar, and alcohol: You never have any gas or stomach pains Your previously painful period cramps completely...
View ArticleBattle of Wills
Here’s a light-hearted query: who raises the kid if we both die? Well, if we can hold off for a dozen or so years, then our friend JB would be perfect. I trust his values, his parenting skills, and his...
View ArticleGray Matters
You know the feeling: you’re starving, and you really want a burger, but all you have is salad, so you eat the salad, and technically you aren’t hungry anymore because the salad was huge and had lots...
View ArticleAlone
The best piece of advice I’ve received from other parents is to leave well enough alone. If your baby is quiet, don’t give her a toy. If she’s happy with her toy, don’t sway her rocker. If she’s happy...
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